In today’s world, where parenting styles often spark endless debates, one voice has struck a chord with a straightforward message: tough love builds resilience. Dr. A Velumani, founder of Thyrocare, recently shared a thought-provoking perspective on social media about the delicate balance between caring for children and preparing them for life’s inevitable challenges. His candid reflections challenge parents to rethink the fine line between nurturing and pampering and why this distinction can shape a child’s future strength.
Dr. Velumani emphasised that survival in life depends on maintaining average strengths- physical, mental, and financial. He pointed out a harsh but natural reality: parents typically depart 30 years before their children, leaving the younger generation to face the world’s difficulties on their own. While it is natural for children to grieve the loss of their parents, Velumani believes they should learn to stand strong afterwards, not weaken through excessive dependence.
He underscored a critical parenting lesson: true parenting builds stronger, more resilient children, whereas pampering risks creating weakness. His advice to parents is clear, avoid overindulgence. This philosophy echoes through his earlier tweets, where he categorised people and situations into two kinds: positive, who are generally content, and negative, who tend to be unhappy. According to Velumani, understanding this can help parents foster positivity without spoiling their children.
Another of his tweets addressed the feeling of love, noting that while some feel loved often, others feel unloved, both shaped by their destiny. Yet, irrespective of this, the key to prosperity lies in parenting without pampering. Velumani’s message serves as a reminder that sometimes, the toughest love is the most loving, preparing children to thrive long after parents are gone.
Dr. Velumani’s tweet is blunt but invites parents to reflect: Is pampering truly helping, or is it unintentionally setting children up for struggle?
Dr. Velumani emphasised that survival in life depends on maintaining average strengths- physical, mental, and financial. He pointed out a harsh but natural reality: parents typically depart 30 years before their children, leaving the younger generation to face the world’s difficulties on their own. While it is natural for children to grieve the loss of their parents, Velumani believes they should learn to stand strong afterwards, not weaken through excessive dependence.
To survive in this world one needs minimum average strengths. Physical, mental and financial.
— Dr. A. Velumani.PhD. (@velumania) May 19, 2025
According to nature, parents will have to depart 30 yrs ahead of children. Children have to face harsh realities then on by themselves.
Children crying on parents death is natural.…
He underscored a critical parenting lesson: true parenting builds stronger, more resilient children, whereas pampering risks creating weakness. His advice to parents is clear, avoid overindulgence. This philosophy echoes through his earlier tweets, where he categorised people and situations into two kinds: positive, who are generally content, and negative, who tend to be unhappy. According to Velumani, understanding this can help parents foster positivity without spoiling their children.
Another of his tweets addressed the feeling of love, noting that while some feel loved often, others feel unloved, both shaped by their destiny. Yet, irrespective of this, the key to prosperity lies in parenting without pampering. Velumani’s message serves as a reminder that sometimes, the toughest love is the most loving, preparing children to thrive long after parents are gone.
Dr. Velumani’s tweet is blunt but invites parents to reflect: Is pampering truly helping, or is it unintentionally setting children up for struggle?
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